These 20 Things are standing in the way of your success and your ability to achieve. Your job is to eradicate and eliminate them.
You define your own success in life and pave your own way. Our ability as humans is sometimes to resist the past, hold grudges, blame other people for our own misfortunes and we never get to move beyond our own self-imposed restrictions and beliefs.
But the BEST way to invite great and memorable things into your life is to let go of the past, organize that mental chaos that you have created over time and start effectively utilizing all of that mental space and make room for new opportunities.
1.Become Self-Aware and Learn about Emotional Intelligence.
Self-awareness is the key to lasting change and personal transformation. You will never change if you don’t learn to become self-aware. It is up to you to learn the tools necessary to make lasting changes in your life.
Emotional intelligence is the ability to be aware of your own capacity to control and express your emotions. It is the unique ability to handle all of your relationships with empathy and prudent judgement.
2.Victim Mentality.
Blaming others is the cowardly way. Not only will it cost you self-respect, it will cost you the respect of others. You must quit blaming others for your lack of success, YOU are responsible for your own life and the choices you make.
3.Laziness & Procrastination.
The only constant in life is change laziness and procrastination are forms of self-sabotage and resistance. These two things alone will kill your dreams and have you sitting in the same spot in front of the TV watching your favorite sitcoms over and over and over again and your internal monologue goes “I’ll do it tomorrow, it can wait.”
You can never get your time back, you may wake up at some point in life and you haven’t achieved anything. Change and transformation are a process, don’t let being lazy or procrastination thieve and rob you of your true ability to achieve the things you want in your life. Don’t do it later, do it NOW.
4.Excuses.
Get rid of them, the small ones, the big ones, ALL of them! Do it and do it NOW. Your BEST life depends on it. Your excuses are all BS and they absolutely stop you from having the life you want.
5.Unrealistic Expectations.
Expectations lead to needless distress, are you suffering unnecessarily because of your unrealistic expectations? When you lower your expectations, only then can you maximize your joy.
6.Stop Waiting For A Sign- You Must Make It Happen.
Luck will find its way to prepared people. When luck meets preparation, opportunities emerge. If you are waiting for a sign from the divine or anyone else for that matter, you could be waiting forever. Successful people create their own destiny. “The best way to predict your future is to create it.” Abraham Lincoln
7.Gossiping.
Small-minded people indulge in this useless and mindless habit. Your dreams are too important to let yourself get trapped in gossiping about other people. Talk about uplifting ideas and how you can support each other in achieving your goals and making a contribution to the world or more importantly, YOUR world.
8.Being Forced to Change- The Graceful Hustle.
“Don’t wait for your dreams to happen, hustle hustle hustle,” the sentiment goes. The thought of more hustle on-top of the hustle is…..exhausting. You have already got enough on your to-do list without worrying about whether you are ticking more stuff off, ‘shaking those trees’ and increasing your social media following.
“When it is graceful, it is less pushy, less controlling and less juggling all the things you need to get done. It is guided action and gaining momentum towards things that feel right. It is about focused attention, calmness and taking intentional action towards your goals that actually lead to meaningful results.” (Patel, 2015).
9.Give Up Your Old Story.
Your past is called the “past” for a reason, let it stay there. Say goodbye to “I can’t,” say ta-ta to your old ideals and say Sayonara to your old habits. Your future is awaiting YOU, so get started NOW. Create a new story and let sleeping dogs lie.
10.Quit Complaining.
This is an absolute dream killer and is one of the least attractive quality of humans. STOP it and stop it now, your future success depends on it
Setting boundaries is imperative here. Don’t stand for time wasters, complainers, naggers, toxic, negative and selfish people, people who are attempting to rob you of your energy.
11.Competition.
Comparison is the thief of joy. This is merely a waste of time; it is just a habit that ought to be broken. It doesn’t serve you to constantly compare yourself to others, because you are uniquely YOU.
If you keep comparing yourself to others, you don’t have the confidence to accept that you and your life is good enough and nothing will never be good enough. So cease it immediately, if you want to be happy and free.
12.Quitting Is Not An Option.
Failure is not falling down. We all fall sometimes. Failure is not getting back up to try again. Don’t quit when things get tough, become more resilient, re-evaluate, re-assess and keep going.
13.You Let Others Steal From You.
We all secretly want more of it, It is elusive and it cannot be seen or touched. It is really one of the most precious things in our lives now isn’t it but we don’t act like it is.
Your time is a rare and precious commodity. You cannot change it or get it back, you must accept it for what it is. I didn’t make up the rules, it just is the way it is.
“Stop letting people waste and steal your precious time. YOU have control of how people treat you and your life is dependent on the standards you set for yourself. If you don’t protect your mental, emotional and physical space, chaos will breed and you won’t live in peace. Would you rather be confident and take control or keep living a mediocre existence and settle?” Darren Hardy
Time IS limited stop wasting it on people who don’t deserve it, protect your time and protect your space.
14.Don’t Take Things Personally.
Everyone has an opinion and that is just it, it is THEIRS and their reality, not yours. Don’t let the opinions of others consume your time or energy
15.Don’t Believe ALL the Voices In Your Head.
Your ego can be deceptive and play mind games with you Don’t believe everything you think or act on it. Press the mute button and move forward despite your fear or doubt.
16.Trying to Please Everyone.
Pleasing other people is just another form of resistance and will stop you in your goal achievement and accomplishment. It doesn’t work and it is not authentic to who you really are. Who ever decided that you need someone else’s approval to be happy and live a great life? What a load of BS. The only person you need to please is yourself. When you make you a priority, and don’t take what others do or say personally, you won’t fall prey to pleasing other people or falling under the expectation of what other people think of you spell
17.Poor Follow-Through.
Your word and you having integrity is a reflection of you. Keep your promises and be one hundred percent reliable and accountable. Your character depends on it.
18.Eliminate Your Negotiation Process.
“The old you, the one who has not yet decided to kick ass yet is in the past. Stay present and don’t even for a second look backwards or entertain any ideas of straying from your decision. Think only of the new you.” (Sincero, 2013).
19.Imitating Other People.
Be yourself and not a second-rate version of someone else. There is only one of you so be yourself.
20. Other People’s Approval.
Your life is up to you. Choose it, don’t let other people tell you what you “should” or “should not” do. Have confidence in your ability to make intelligent informed decisions. You DO NOT need the approval of others in order to be free or happy. Don’t let other people diminish you or your dreams.
YOU have the ability to make a contribution in your own unique way. We all tend to have traits and characteristics we need to reevaluate and/or eliminate so that we get a little closer to the things we want out of life. When you look at yourself and reflect on those things, be honest and know that you are greater than any limitation you have believed up until now.
You CAN conquer your limitations, overcome your fears and master your mind.
Susie G
References:
Daskal, L., Sept 4, 2015. “25 Simple Things To Give Up If You Want To Succeed.” Retrieved From:
http://www.inc.com/lolly-daskal/25-simple-things-to-give-up-if-you-want-to-succeed.html
Patel, A., Jan 29, 2015. “How To Hustle Gracefully.” Retrieved From:
http://www.theconcoterie.com/new-blog-1/
Sincero, J.,2013, You Are A BADASS.How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life. Running Press.
Taking things personally used to be a huge problem of mine. Over the years it’s drastically reduced and helped me out in so many ways. My life feels way more laid back and relaxed now.
Taking it personally is such an insidious bad habit. It has a way of creeping into your life and destroying your self-esteem and you inevitably become a victim to your external circumstances. I am so happy you have reduced it in so many ways and when you do that, life really does become more peaceful and content. Keep up the good work!